Every marriage and family has their share of sacrifices, and each of those sacrifices looks different for each relationship. For some it may be financial, putting careers on hold, time constraints, giving up self wants, and the list goes on and on. For each season of life, new sacrifices and changes come into play and rather than looking on them as something detrimental and world altering, I think it's important to work through them together as best as you can and strive for excellence in maintaining a positive attitude. It's vital in getting through those times.
Husby and I would rather be together than with anyone else. It's always been that way. We hate being apart and when we do have to be apart, we spend most of the time longing for the time we can get back home to our little family. Life just doesn't feel right when we're not all together. That being said, with him being a Medical Resident now and for the next 2 years, we don't always get to see one another regularly.
For the past two weeks, he has been on the night shift which means that he gets home when we wake up and then he goes to bed. When he wakes up, he grabs a bite to eat, gets a shower and heads back out to work. I usually get to see him for 2 hours (sometimes more or less), and Levi is often in a nap, so sometimes he goes a whole day without seeing him. It's been a yucky and difficult couple of weeks, to say the least. And lonely. Did I mention lonely? (What would I do without my Levi?) I know it could be worse and I know that some of you live this type of schedule day in and day out. (Bless you, women.) I am just grateful it's for a couple of weeks here and there, but also I don't discredit what we are going through at all ... because it's hard. And just plain ole not fun. And there is a month ahead of us (when we have a brand new 1 month old newborn), when he has an entire month of this schedule. As daunting as that month that looms ahead of us seems now, I know without a doubt that we can do it. With excellence. Because that is what we ask God for in our marriage relationship, every single day.
I know that our lives right now can't be fully understood by anyone who hasn't done the same thing before, or something similar dealing with time apart. And believe me, I don't think anyone who hasn't done this CAN understand. And sometimes I want to scream something from a mountain top when we don't feel "understood", but then I realize that's the way life goes and I shouldn't expect everyone to relate. How can they if they don't live it? Just like I can't understand the next couple's sacrifices, not everyone can understand ours. This is our special situation and this is something that only we can understand with one another. This is our day in and day out and when we come out of it, just like we did with Medical School (NOBODY cheered louder than me at his Med School graduation), we can look at each other and say, "Hey, WE did this TOGETHER." With the hand of God on us every single day.
The Lord has been so very gracious to us in these past 6 years. SO GRACIOUS. And He continues to prove faithful. He called Husby into the medical field at a young age, and we know that as long as we are living His will, He will continue to guide and bless us. And he most certainly has. He has also given us some wise mentors/prayer warriors who have encouraged us greatly along the way. For those people I am forever grateful.
Now on to the point of the post! I got off on a little rant, but hey, I will enjoy going back on this years from now and reading my thoughts and remembering the truth of our lives right now. It's heavy on my mind right now since these past couple of weeks have been so non-ideal. So yay for blatant honesty.
Making best of your situation! (The original point of this post!)
The other night, Levi and I were just so "Husby sick", that we picked up a picnic dinner (Ah - hmm, Chick-Fil-A), and brought it to the hospital and hung out with Husby/Daddy in his call room! It MADE his NIGHT. And, it made ours!!!!
Levi was so very excited to "go to work with Daddy" - and that's all he talked about the whole way there and then the whole rest of the night. He was on cloud 9. It was just the sweetest thing.
Sure, it wasn't the most ideal local for a nice family dinner, but it was awesome. We got to be TOGETHER, and that is all that mattered. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do to see your Husby, and if it's in the hospital, then so be it - it's totally worth it.
We plan on doing this as regularly as we can when he has this schedule, but it's tricky to time it just right. Husby got three new admits while we were there, so we had to cut the "date" short and let him get back to work. But that time we did have together was precious. And you would have thought Levi was at Disney Land. :)
His Daddy is most certainly his hero.
And you know what? He's mine, too.